i had to try 4 mothers'

- submitted by leslie on 02/12/2007

i had to try 4 mothers' group before i found the right one. one group got facials, that was their experience.

don't give up. it takes a while. i've been in burbs a year and a half and still miss the city. but it's getting better.

good luck!

strip mall or indoor

- submitted by mallperson on 02/12/2007

strip mall or indoor shopping center?

makes a difference.

kidding. sounds gross. i moved to burbs and after 2 years couldn't take it anymore. left my husband there, took my kids and am back in the city. i'm myself again, thank god!

you took your kids from

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/12/2007

you took your kids from their father. how is that a good thing?

our marriage was done

- submitted by mallperson on 02/12/2007

our marriage was done regardless. we were going to live apart.

the kids have a great relationship with their dad. he sees them a lot each week and they get both city and suburbs.

of course it's not ideal, but it never is with a divorce. but i know i'm so much happier this way -- and so is my ex -- and ultimately that's been a good thing for our kids.

meditation saved me. i used

- submitted by gail7 on 02/12/2007

meditation saved me. i used to live in SF, then nyc, now nj burbs. i hated it here.

then i started meditating. it's been great.

still miss the energy of nyc, but i can appreciate more the quiet and good things that are out here too.

i had a tough time too. then

- submitted by findingfun on 02/12/2007

i had a tough time too. then i met a contractor working next store. yes, things go a lot more interesting!

i highly recommend it.

oh god, i totally agree

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/12/2007

oh god, i totally agree about the contractor.

mine was an architect working around the corner. afternoons became a lot more tolerable, i'll tell you that.

i've got a whole new appreciation for living here.

the architect and contractor

- submitted by goingcraxy on 02/12/2007

the architect and contractor sound fun. but i'm happily married. well, maybe not happily but at least committed.

don't think i could go that route. but have to admit it sounds a great adventure and i could use more adventure.

i'm stuck out here divorced.

- submitted by divorcedinh**l on 02/12/2007

i'm stuck out here divorced. 2 kids love their school so i'm not leaving.

it's hard. especially trying to meet new single people.

i'm in a single mothers' group. it's great. i love the ladies in our group. you've got to keep looking for a good one. it may be 5 towns over, but it'll be worth the drive. it's made a big difference for me.

i found 4 women at my kids'

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/12/2007

i found 4 women at my kids' school. we go out once a week. we have a glass of wine, something. and we never go to the mall.

find people you relate to. be more generous. we rate the guys who walk by. haven't seen any 10s, but we're still hopeful!

i found 4 women at my kids'

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/12/2007

i found 4 women at my kids' school. we go out once a week. we have a glass of wine, something. and we never go to the mall.

find people you relate to. be more generous. we rate the guys who walk by. haven't seen any 10s, but we're still hopeful!

watch soap operas. what else

- submitted by dev on 02/12/2007

watch soap operas. what else do you need? oh, maybe read a book? or get a job?

miss the dirt and grossness of nyc? no way. i'm ecstatic to be out of there.

i left nyc and missed it

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/12/2007

i left nyc and missed it like crazy.

then i went back for a week to stay in a friend's apt. by day 3, i was climbing the walls. no space. unbelievable noise. getting across town was an ordeal. cab drivers are freaks.

the h**l with the ciy. i love suburbia. malls and all.

we came here, burbs of st.

- submitted by daverave on 02/12/2007

we came here, burbs of st. louis, having lived in nyc for years. it was a nightmare.

then we decided to go out every night as an experiment. every possible movie, every restaurant, including mostly bad ones. after months of this we got so sick of being active we started feeling better about hanging out, enjoying the quiet and green of our neighborhood.

we moved here for my wife's job. i hated it espcially, had nothing to do, had to find work.

i must've gone to espn.com 1000 times a day.

now, 5 years later, it's only 500x/day.

it's home. imperfect. but everything is.

my first 6 months moving

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/12/2007

my first 6 months moving outside chicago were bad. my wife wanted the move, for the kids.

after 6 months i decided i'm going to really try. and it gets better all the time. i'm in sports/rec leagues, i play poker, i'm actually in a mom-dad reading group. weekends it's so nice to have all the parks.

we go into chi every other weekend -- my condition -- and it's ok. gotta stay open, that's what i've learned. i've also learned to watch mega-flat screen tv in our new family-rec room, with pool table and foosball. so things aren't too bad at all

i don't miss nyc at all.

- submitted by dontmisscity on 02/12/2007

i don't miss nyc at all. yea, great culture, restaurants. also great traffic, freakjobs, loud loud noise, miniscule living space.

nyc is for children or massively rich people.

get over it.

we moved from sf to northern

- submitted by welovesf on 02/12/2007

we moved from sf to northern country-burbs. it's so beautiful. move out here. ny-nj suburbs are housing developments by comparison.

stop whining. everything is

- submitted by nowhining on 02/12/2007

stop whining. everything is a trade off. you like nyc, move there and live in a tiny place with crappyg public schools.

you want good public schools and more space, move to a suburba. of course it's dull. but it's cleaner, safer, etc.

here's atip: grow up and stop feeling so entitled!

i think it's tough

- submitted by devin on 02/13/2007

i think it's tough adjusting. we formed a club in my town. call them suburban exiles. we meet once a week, have a party. it's a godsend.

i like that suburban exiles.

- submitted by exile2 on 02/13/2007

i like that suburban exiles. we also have a group. near pleasantville ny.

some are from nyc. some other cities.

we drink and laugh. very key.

i pressured hubby to move

- submitted by yeaexile on 02/13/2007

i pressured hubby to move out here. he now loves it, i hate it.

he calls it justice. he wants me to learn golf. over my dead body!

i know it's scary

- submitted by golfinggal on 02/13/2007

i know it's scary ridiculous. i tried golf 2 years ago. thought i'd hate it.

it's great fun. i'm hooked. call me a sell out, but i love it. anything to feel comfy in the burbs.

i admit it too. i was born &

- submitted by alsolikegolf on 02/13/2007

i admit it too. i was born & raised in nyc. came out to nj suburbs 5 years ago and hated it.

started golf 2 years ago. i know insane, but it's changed everything. courses are available here, you can walk calmly, meditate, the open spaces are beautiful.

in a million years i never would've imagined it.

it took for 1 year. i ran

- submitted by turnedcorner on 02/13/2007

it took for 1 year. i ran constantly. prepared for a marathon. i ran the marathon and came back and saw my great house and the kids in the yard and felt unexpectedly relieved, out of nowhere.

exercise is definitely big.

munsi

- submitted by hatecity on 02/13/2007

you guys are nuts. i lived in nyc for 10 years. i'm grateful every day i don't live there anymore.

space. green. quiet.