B-Rant

- submitted by hannah7 on 02/28/2007

  

Swinging In The Burbs?

I'm in shock. Last week a close friend and my husband suggested we all get together one weekend and get to know each other better in "new ways."

I had no idea what they were talking about. Then my friend enlightened me: She and her husband are part of a swingers group in town that "gets together" with other "progressive" people and has a "good time".

A good time! She's been doing this for over a year, she said, and it's been a blast. I almost fell over. I thought I knew her.

I thought I knew our town. It's outside NYC, and it's about the last place in the universe you'd expect this. Daughters of the Revolution, Woman's League. Yes. Swingers Clubs? No f-ing way.

And my husband. I think he was embarrassed a little, but he's interested. "Just to see what they're doing," he said, trying to act clinical. I wanted to smack him across the face. Instead I walked away and we haven't spoken about it since.

Your read about this stuff, see it on TV. But in a million years I never expected it to be real, certainly not here.

I asked who else in town does this and my friend said I'd be surprised who and how many. She wouldn't tell me names. What, not until I swear the secret Club oath?

 I'm like a subject in a Jerry Springer. And I don't even live in a trailer park! We live in big houses with big lawns, and christ, this is way way way too much for me....read more rants

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where do you live. i want to

- submitted by guy on 02/28/2007

where do you live. i want to move to your town!


my town had something like

- submitted by carren on 02/28/2007

My town had something like this a couple years ago. Learned my neighbors were involved. These conservative buttoned up people. The woman never smiled, worse blazers. Bet she smiled a lot on those wild weekends.


honey, you should slap your

- submitted by takenoprisoners on 02/28/2007

honey, you should slap your man. if you don't you're pathetic. you want respect, you demand it!


what are you talking about.

- submitted by huhg on 02/28/2007

what are you talking about. why slap him. what's wrong with a little spice in our lives.

i'm all for it. i've been teasing my husband about this kind of thing for years. doubt there's a swingers den in my town -- blueblood CT, yuk! -- but i know it's somewhere close enough


if my man suggested this i'd

- submitted by crazygil on 02/28/2007

<p>If my man suggested this i'd kick his butt out so fast he wouldn't know what was coming. </p><p>If he wants to screw other people, no problem. he's just not going to be screwing me anymore.</p>


i tried this once. it wasn't

- submitted by rene on 02/28/2007

i tried this once. it wasn't a formal club. big dinner party and it just somehow got there.

have no idea who suggested it. a lot of wine was drank. it was amazing. my husband and i never talked about it afterward. kind of weird, no? it was a year ago.

i'd kind of like to try it again, but afraid to bring it up with him. not sure if because i'm afraid he'll say no, or yes.


bring condoms! no, i'll

- submitted by righty on 02/28/2007

bring condoms! no, i'll bring them. where do i go?


i read about swingers clubs

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/28/2007

I read about swingers clubs in some regional newspaper. Said a lot are just prostitution rings posing as local fun events.


mine was no prostitution

- submitted by huhg on 02/28/2007

Mine was no prostitution ring! These flabby folk wouldn't get paid, believe me. plus, i knew them all. some were on the pta! 1 was an asst principal. Like i said, it was fun. no $ involved. I picked the better ones, know what I mean.


hey, don't you know, this is

- submitted by thegeek on 02/28/2007

hey, don't you know, this is just some pathetic excuse to relieve boredom. find something more real. screwing neighbors ain't the answer. is it?


what's wrong with relieving

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/28/2007

what's wrong with relieving boredom? better than drugs or alcohol. and if everyone's consenting, i don't see a problem.

my husband and i have never done it. but, after my first reaction, who knows maybe i'd consider it. being with the same guy for 17 years, even if he's gorgeous (which mine isn't!), isn't exactly a dream come true each night.


yo, ok, where do we sign

- submitted by gary on 02/28/2007

yo, ok, where do we sign up.

honestly, my girlfriend and i did this. i urged her to. she ended up liking it. i kind of freaked and a few weeks later we split up. we'd been together for 4 years.

sound cool, but.....


i'm all for experimenting.

- submitted by lester on 02/28/2007

I'm all for experimenting. Life is short. of course, experimenting in my town outside Philly mean getting jelly in the donut instead of vanilla cream go swingers!


no joke. my boyfriend and i

- submitted by Anonymous on 02/28/2007

no joke. my boyfriend and i just did this. i couldn't belive it. a bunch of friends told us they did it. shock shock.

for months we said no, then, what the h++l. we went. it was so...weird!!!! only 3 weeks ago, and it feels like a year. still don't know what to make of it.

but i did have sex, with condies, with the hottest guy in our neighborhood. he was very small, if you get my drift!!


what's wrong with you

- submitted by familyvalues on 03/01/2007

what's wrong with you people. i've lived in suburbia my whole life and have never heard of any of this.

and what about respecting your marriages? you guys are sluts and whores, i'm sorry to say.


lighten up familyvalues. who

- submitted by larky on 03/01/2007

lighten up familyvalues. who are you to judge what's right or respectful.

i've never "swung" but i don't think doign it means necessarily you're bad or even that your marriage is bad.

human nature is not static. people need change. if it works for somebody, good for them. keep your own family values in your own home.


morality isn't subjective.

- submitted by familyvalues on 03/01/2007

morality isn't subjective. although a lot of liberals seem to think so.

there is such a thing as right and wrong. and screwing your neighbor while your spouse is screwing somebody else all in front of you is wrong. imho.


can't say i'd be comfortable

- submitted by laurie33 on 03/01/2007

can't say i'd be comfortable doing it either. but part of me wishes i could.

i know if my husband and i did it our relationship would never be the same.

but for those who want to experiment, i've got no problems with them.


maybe changing the dynamic

- submitted by evegal on 03/01/2007

maybe changing the dynamic of the relationship with a spouse is a good thing.

i wouldn't mind a little change in mind. i think if i suggested this to my husband, he'd faint.

but it sounds kind of fun, good wild to me.


i would be happy just to

- submitted by kingdomdude on 03/01/2007

i would be happy just to have sex with my wife. but ever since we got married....


Swinging is cool. Ever try

- submitted by TheLata on 03/01/2007

Swinging is cool. Ever try sliding too? Got to check that out for sure.


Funny

- submitted by Anonymous on 07/13/2007

It's funny to me how every one of the women who are against it totally forgets (or ignores) the fact that men are creatures of sex. It's what runs their lives, minds and beings. So, go ahead and THINK your hubby won't want to try it. But I'm telling you, if you think HE thinks or says it's bad, you're totally fooling yourself. AND HE'S LYING TO YOU!!! Go ahead, ignore your hubbys needs. How would you like it if he told you you couldn't shop, take a shower or breathe???? Yea, it IS the same thing!!!

AND YEA IM A WOMAN BUT THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ME AND LOTS OF OTHERS IS THAT I ACTUALLY PUT OUT ON A REGULAR BASIS AND ACTUALLY ASK HIM WHAT HE WANTS.


think about it

- submitted by Anonymous on 11/24/2007

We have done it and it is one of the best things for our marriage. After 26 years we are still together but have a lot of fun. Be daring. Try it. Live a fantasy and bring the life back in your life.


If Only.....

- submitted by CT Guy on 09/25/2008

my wife wasn't so monogamous! After being with only each other sexually our entire lives, a little spice might certainly help.

And to "huhg" above, I'm sure it exists even here in "blueblood CT".


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